To “provoke . . . to anger” suggests a repeated, ongoing pattern of treatment that gradually builds up a deep–seated anger and resentment that boils over in outward hostility.He then goes on to list 8 ways in which we can provoke our children. I'll list them briefly, but do go to the article to read further.
3. Pushing for achievement
5. Failing to sacrifice for your children
6. Failing to let children grow up at their own pace
7. Using love as a tool of reward or punishment
8. Physical and verbal abuse