Wednesday, March 07, 2007

Wise Words for Women: Guard Your Heart

I came across the following article the other day courtesy of Lydia at The Purple Cellar. "Guard Your Heart" addresses unmarried women, exhorting them to guard their hearts so that "it does not become entangled emotionally without the protection of a covenant." The author, Nancy Wilson, offers some exhortations which she admittedly might come across as "a trifle negative", but will have positive results. I'd like to quote from her article for today's wise words and commend the rest for your reading.

Nancy writes:
You must guard your imagination if you want to guard your heart. Don’t feed a lonely heart with cheesy romance novels or chick flicks and fantasize about the men or the relationships described. This can quickly become lust—lusting to be lusted after. Don’t allow yourself to imagine someone is interested in you when he is just being friendly. Don’t imagine that he had a tender look when he said hello to you, when he was really just giving you a polite greeting. In other words, do not develop wild crushes. If the man in question shows an interest elsewhere, you will be hurt, and depending on how much you indulged your imagination, you may be devastated. Be realistic about the men who show you attention....

Cultivating male group friendships is a healthy alternative to the world’s dating system, but we must not use these friendships to fill a void. Friendships can be sexually charged, and women are usually very ignorant about this. Friendships should not be intimate, but good-naturedly distant. Would you be able to maintain the friendship on an equal footing if you were married? If not, it is probably an inappropriate friendship. Women should have the kind of friendships with the brothers that are characterized by purity and propriety. If you have to alter your behavior after you are married, you have probably been behaving in an unwise or ungodly manner....


4 comments:

Ruth said...

If you like that article try some more like it in Nancy Wilson's latest book - 'Building Her House'. It's a really helpful collection of essays which she wrote for a magazine over the past years. You may have already heard of or read it but just in case you haven't I had to recommend it. You can find it here: http://www.amazon.com/Building-Her-House-Commonsensical-Christian/dp/1591280397/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1/103-8299087-3580669?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1173260141&sr=8-1

robert said...

Hmmm....good one...ladies are soft-hearted and nonetheless they think themselves to be soft-hearted...they fill up the empty area in a man's life where he falls short...wish ur post is read by most female bloggers out here...best wishes :)

Juliana said...

This is so important, especially in this day and age where the expectations on women is so very different from a biblical example. Temptation is everywhere and to constantly 'swim upstream' and live a different example is exhausting.

mum said...

Hi Nicki

Really enjoyed my weekend with you Colin, Glen and Rebekah.

Hope you and Colin have a lovely birthday celebration tonight. Great website(or blog).

Love
Sandra xx