Saturday, January 19, 2008

Questions for a Godly Wife

I came across a helpful set of questions from Daniel Phillips written for Christian women who desire to be godly wives. They deal with everything from your personal relationship with God, to your role as a wife, your desires and goals to the place of others in your marriage. If you're married take some time to go through thinking about these questions. If you're single, don't go, do the same, it's good preparation and learning for what may lie ahead.....

Here's one taster question to get you started and one that I think I'm going to be constantly asking!:
  • "Do you handle disagreements in a respectful, God-honoring way? Do you respect your husband in your heart, in how you think of him (Prov. 4:23; cf. 1 Pet. 3:2, 5, 6 with Gen. 18:12 [i.e. Sarah thought of Abraham as "my lord" in her heart])? Do you imagine that a feigned outward formal respect, thinly veiling a bitter, resentful, belittling heart, is pleasing to God? Or can you dream that such an attitude will bear other than bitter fruit in your marriage (cf. Prov. 4:23; Matt. 15:18-20)? That being the case, do you duly respect your husband and his thinking? Do you approach differences with him cautiously and humbly in your thinking, or brashly and arrogantly? Do you give any prominence in your thinking to the possibility that you might be mistaken? Do you magnify your husband's strengths and godly traits — or do you exaggerate even tiny flaws and affronts (contra 1 Cor. 13:5b)? Do you give him the benefit of a doubt (1 Cor. 13:7), or do you "shoot first and ask questions later," or never? Do you "declare war" easily (contra 1 Cor. 13:5), or seldom or never (Eph. 4:2; Jas. 3:17)?"

3 comments:

Nicole said...

This is a great list. Thanks for pointing us to it.

EM said...

Very good thoughts. I hope that such a list is considered equal applicable to husbands -- i.e.:
"Do you handle disagreements in a respectful, God-honoring way? Do you respect your wife in your heart, in how you think of her? Do you imagine that a feigned outward formal respect, thinly veiling a bitter, resentful, belittling heart, is pleasing to God? Or can you dream that such an attitude will bear other than bitter fruit in your marriage (cf. Prov. 4:23; Matt. 15:18-20)? That being the case, do you duly respect your wife and her thinking? Do you approach differences with her cautiously and humbly in your thinking, or brashly and arrogantly? Do you give any prominence in your thinking to the possibility that you might be mistaken? Do you magnify your wife's strengths and godly traits — or do you exaggerate even tiny flaws and affronts (contra 1 Cor. 13:5b)? Do you give her the benefit of a doubt (1 Cor. 13:7), or do you "shoot first and ask questions later," or never? Do you "declare war" easily (contra 1 Cor. 13:5), or seldom or never (Eph. 4:2; Jas. 3:17)?"

Perfectly His said...

Blessings!

Great Post. I saw the complete list, it's great to use as an “inventory” checklist.
I'm thankful for grace and mercy because although I don't fulfill these godly attributes always, God teaches me every time.