Thursday, October 12, 2006

What Makes a Strong Family?

The Family Room is a recent initiative of Covenant Life Church, (where Joshua Harris is the Senior Pastor) to equip its members to build God-glorifying marriages and familes. Their tag
line is: "Because strong families don't just happen." The Family Room has a blog, where those who are not immediate beneficiaries of the ministry can log on and listen to talks given each month. Last night I listened to the first of their talks: What Makes a Strong Family? Three things were mentioned:

1. A strong family finds purpose in God (Eph 3:14).
2. A strong family finds hope in the Gospel (1 Cor 15:3-4).
3. A strong family finds a home in a local church (1 Cor 12:18)

However, what I took mostly from the message was the practical ideas that would help towards such a goal. One such tip is ordering a schedule. The idea behind this is that we are all naturally busy, but are we fruitful in our busyness? Are we busy doing the right things, or are we crowding out the important, essential things? Here is a list of essentials which need to take priority in our lives:

1. Meeting with God.
2. Date Night (spending uninterrupted time with our spouse).
3. Family Night (spending uninterrupted time with our children).
4. Training our sons and daughters.
5. Meeting with God's family.
6. Working diligently in the jobs that we have, either at home or in the workplace.

It is only then that we should find time for the other things in life, such as meeting friends, shopping, going to the dentist and other stuff. The lesson is that we must pre-determine when we shall do the important things as it won't always happen spontaneously. In order to do this, we should take 10-30 minutes at the beginning of the week to write down and plan our days. This is something that I don't do well, I certainly don't write down a plan for each week. I find myself going from week to week and day to day reminding myself in my head of the important things that need doing. Colin is better than me! He has a plan for the week ahead, and for each day! Catriona (my fellow blogger) has also informed me that this is something that she has started doing. I'm glad to say that both of them find this a very helpful exercise and something worth making the effort to do.

If you want to listen to the talk, click here. It is also worthwhile looking at the talk outline where it gives an example of someone's planning for the week and the application questions that go along with the talk.

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